December 27, 2013

Keeping the best interests of the child in mind with nesting

When most Michigan couples divorce, they go on to live separate lives. They live in separate houses, arrange a child custody agreement and move on with their lives. But having to shuttle kids back and forth between parents every weekend is not really in the best interests of the child. What if the children could still have regular access to both parents after a divorce? It’s possible with a new trend called nesting.

Many of those who are separated or divorced continue to live together – either because it’s cheaper to live in one home than two or because they don’t want to disrupt the lives of their children. School-age children are especially affected by divorce. Not only may they have to move to a new town, but they have to go to a new school and make new friends.

Nesting offers many benefits for couples who can still stand to be around each other. Besides saving money, both parents can still be involved in the day-to-day lives of their children. With joint custody becoming increasingly common, this solution makes sense for many.

Nesting, however, can be awkward once either party starts to date again. Plus, many couples have communication issues or differences in opinion that could make this situation challenging – why else would they be separating or divorcing?

Nesting is a great way to keep a family together despite the parents’ differences. However, an alternate parenting plan or custody order should be in place. This type of plan seems temporary in nature and likely would not last beyond several years. After a divorce, it’s important for the parties to move on – without the ex-spouse.

Source: The Boston Globe, “Separated but living under one roof — for now” Kara Baskin, Dec. 25, 2013